I'm new to learning about AS and my partner doesn't want to get tested but believes she has it. That might explain some of the communication difficulties that we've been having. We've been together almost 5 years but have also suffered some complex grief experiences. She is so important to me but I think it's important that we figure out how to communicate better. I can work around whatever it is but the trouble is figuring out the best way.

What I'm wondering, is what do you think is the best book for helping couples improve their communication and understand each other?

I recognize that individuals have their own unique ways of aspergers but there's got to be a list or guidelines that we could try that might help. I did read "Alone Together: Making an Aspergers Marriage Work" by Katrin Bently which was ok but more of her own personal experience like a memoir and less like a "how-to" book

I'm also very interested in talking with other partners of AS folks.

Thanks!