Hi Karen:
I'd really like to get some input on the strategies of NT's & the art of manipulation. First, I believe manipulations can be both positive as well as negative.
As a parent, I am constantly challenged to sharpen my skills of parental manipulation when guiding my children toward outcomes & decision making while they are still learning.
However, I have never been able to completely adjust to the scandalous manipulations of other people. In fact, I find that this is where I am typically at my most vulnerable, and to make things worse, it's like I have a huge sign over my head that says, "push over."
As hard as I try, I can never seem to completely ward off the attempts of scandals. Though I have become rather successful (now that I'm 45) at severing ties immediately upon the revelation of another's manipulations, I nonetheless can not seem to figure out who these people are *initially.*